Sunday, September 23, 2012

Autumnal Equinox

Happy equinox everybody :) It is indeed today, and was ushered in last night with a drop in the temperature that left me sleeping really badly.  From tomorrow, the nights will be longer than the days which means that I can finally accept that it is Autumn.

To celebrate, I am going to make minestrone soup for dinner, then poached pears.  I will not worry about the calorific intake of anything I eat today, instead I shall just enjoy the food.  We haven't got any decorations up today because there's a lack of room due to furniture moving to accomodate the broken boyfriend.  Instead I shlal just light some candles over lunch and dinner instead.

Hope everyone has a great day!

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Link time!

Several things I've seen that I want to pass on -
Landry Walker and Eric Jones talk about the delays on Danger Club - the delays came about because two of the colorist's kids got hit by a car while our cycling recently.  Obviously, this struck a nerve with me.  Motorists - drive more carefully will you?  And cyclists?  Wear helmets, please.

Comic booked redesigns the DCU - a twitter friend of mine has started redesigning the DCU, for fun.  That link will take you to his Wonder Woman redraw.  I really like it.  Incidentally, this is the same guy that drew me this piece of art, which is now hanging on my wall.

An article on how racism works in the comics industry - it's not as simple as one person yelling racial slurs.

Gendercrunching in the comics industry - Comics creators broken down by gender and race.  I'd really like to see similar stats for the staff at Marvel and DC - the editors and publishers and administrators and suchlike.  I'd also like to see how it's broken down by staffing level.

How not to write comics criticism - and if you don't read comics but are interested in them, have a gander and you'll probably learn more about the medium.

Why I'm not going to pick up the Amyethst book, despite the preview looking all kind of awesome.  Seriously writers, stop with the rape tropes.

Friday, September 21, 2012

ASN September bulletin



Welcome to your September ASN e-bulletin


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ASN has now registered for Gift Aid and asks all donors past and present to register to make donations go 25% further. ASN made the news a few more times - print, online and radio. September and October bring many opportunities for pro-choice activism in the UK and Ireland. Women we’ve helped this month. And ASN asks you to spread the word as well as help us prepare for a non-event.

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• ASN in the news

• Opportunities for pro-choice activism

• Women we’ve helped

• Help spread the word

• Get ready for the non-event!

Give us your Gift Aid!

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ASN in the news



3 August 2012 - KFM Radio’s Kildare Today. ASN’s Mara Clarke is asked about women who terminate as the result of rape.



27 August - Womens eNews “Catholic Ireland Awaits Report on its Abortion Law”. Also picked up by Forbes.com! 28 August – Daily Mirror “I couldn’t afford to be a mum”. Student’s tearful decision to have an abortion despite wanting kids” [Story not available online]



29 August – XOJane “The Rich Get Richer and the Poor Have Children. Talking about the need for abortion rights in Ireland.”

Opportunities for pro-choice activism

There are a number of events happening around the world on and around 28 September, including meetings and actions in Belfast, Dublin, Derry, Cork and London. ASN representatives will be at many of them, and we hope to see you there! For more information about the global campaign, go here.



A few of the events:



27th Sept. Public meeting in Central Library, Foyle St, Derry at 7.00pm



28 September – Global Day of Action for Access to Safe and Legal Abortion



28th Sept. Street activity planned in Derry followed by an evening public meeting in Belfast, location TBD.



29th Sept. March for Choice in Dublin, 2 pm. See here for more info'. 1st Oct. Voice for Choice public meeting – “Taking abortion out of the criminal law”. Find out more and reserve your free place here



6th Oct. Pro choice street action planned in Belfast’s Corn Market. Take a look here for further details.



Women we’ve heard from

In August, ASN heard from 28 women seeking assistance, including the following emails we received:



“I am 18 years old. I recently found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I have spoke to a support network agencies about my situation and I feel it is best for me in my circumstances that I would be unable to care and look after a baby by myself. I have a part time job, however I am not in the financial position to support my decision.”



“I have recently found out that I'm pregnant again about 6 weeks gone. I'm desperate to get an abortion. I was taking the pill but I was caught while on a course of antibiotics. I already have 3 brilliant children one of which has autism. Have another child is just wrong at the minute. I'm barely coping with the 3 I have. I’ve checked the cost of having an abortion and I just can't afford it”



"I am 31 and single mother of 2. I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and am 8 weeks pregnant. Continuing with this pregnancy is not an option. I have looked into having a termination but i just cannot afford the fees and flight. please can you help me i cannot continue with this pregnancy and am becoming very desperate."

"hi i was wondering if u could please help me i am a single mother of three children and need an abortion i am 25 years old. I can’t afford to have pay for it. i can barely cope as it is with three young children please help me thanks "



“I am roughly 6 weeks pregnant and I need to get an abortion. I think I will be able to afford my flights but I am worried I cannot afford the procedure by myself and I am not able to tell my family as they would not allow it. Is there anything I can do?”



“I am in need of assistance of getting to England as I have a baby of nine months old and was born wit congenial cataracts in both eyes and need help of finance to go England as i found out as i am expecting again to soon again and would be grateful if u could contact me as soon as possible.”



“I was pro life until I found out my younger sister was pregnant which has changed everything for me. I never realised what it might mean for someone not to be ready to have a kid and I am immensely grateful to you for your support. I want to go out into the street and scream with relief!”

We thank these women and men for allowing us to share their stories.

Help spread the word

This month, we're not going to ask you for donations. Instead, we'd like to ask you to use the 'Forward to a Friend' link at the bottom of this eBulletin to send it to three friends (or 1, or 5 or 10) and encourage them to sign up to learn more about ASN's work. How easy is that?

Get ready for the non-event!

October is coming up, which means it will soon be the third anniversary of when ASN opened our doors. This year, we’d like to invite you all NOT to come to our 3rd birthday party. Intrigued? More details to follow . . .



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Thursday, September 20, 2012

Hospitals and broken bits

So you may remember me writing a few weeks ago about my boyfriend getting hit by a car and broken.  Well he's home now, relatively mobile and slowly recovering.  I've been considering writing a post ranting about the support and lack of support you get, and our experiences with the NHS.

But quite frankly I'm knackered.  I was shattered from all the hospital visits, twice a day with a 2 hour break in between, then when he came home I was finally able to sleep properly at night, but seeing as he's now using a wheelchair there's a lot of stuff I have to do for him. We have set up a bed for him downstairs as he can't do stairs just yet.  Because we live in a Victorian terrace he can't get into the kitchen in his wheelchair, because the doorframe and galley kitchen itself is too narrow.  Thankfully, he can get between his new bedroom and the dining room.  But this means I have to sort out all food and water etc.  And do all the housework because he can't walk yet.  And go to work.  I'm knackered.  Thankfully (another one) his folks are coming down and spending alternate weeks with us, to look after him during the day when I'm at work. But having other people around also tires me out.  And I'm emotionally drained because I've been so worried about him.  Thankfully (there's a lot of thanks in this post) he will recover from his injuries and he'll have no side effects.  He's just got another 8 weeks in the wheelchair and then he can start putting weight on his bad leg.

And the wheelchair. It's not modern and it's not slimline.  But it's not as heavy as you'd think and it's easier to manoeuvre than I'd expected.  The Red Cross supplied it.  The hospital supplied a zimmerframe (to support him when he stands up on his good leg to shift from bed to chair) and a commode (because our bathroom is upstairs).  No one supplies a ramp.  Social services came and had a look at the house but because the doorframe is upvc they can't easily fit one.  I forget the exact reasons.  Because he's only a short term wheelchair user they won't go to greater effort to fit something for just a couple of months.

I've gone through various emotions about this - disbelief, rage, frustration, sorrow, annoyance, and back to rage again.  It's not the hospital's fault, or social services.  The nurses and OTs at the hospital were mostly great.  They have limited resources and have to allocate them to those who need them most.  But I cannot quite comprehend that the budget holders think it is OK to force someone to be house bound for 2 months.  It's just not on.  It's not a good atmosphere for healing.

Before anyone starts giving me advice about what to do - the boyfriend isn't sure that he wants a ramp. he doesn't like a fuss being made, he doesn't want to put anyone out.  That's not the point.  The NHS should have enough resources and budget to provide ramps for people like him.  He's got a follow up x-ray next week. I've had to arrange for hospital transport (an ambulance) to come pick him up because me and his mum cannot get him out of the house.  We will not be able to physically lift him and his wheelchair over the threshold, and he cannot hop over.

We (me and the boyfriend, not his mum) are meant to be going to ThoughtBubble comic convention in Leeds in November.  This will be 5 days before he's due to be allowed to put weight on his bad leg.  We don't know if he can go or not.  ThoughtBubble's venue is accessible (thankfully).  The trains and stations to Leeds are accessible, but if he can't stand on both legs he'll need his zimmerframe to lean on to be able to shift from chair to bed or chair to seat.  We can't take the frame with us.  The hotel we are staying at isn't wheelchair accessible.  How would he get over the threshold?  If we were to stay over what would we do for dinner?  Where could we go that is accessible?  We were meant to be staying in York - that's another journey and more hassle.  I don't know if he'll be able to come or not.

So. all this has been on my mind.  I'm knackered.

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Coming out in comics: Black Cat

This probably isn't news to anyone else but as I don't read much Marvel I don't know a whole lot about the Black Cat.  I have heard rumours that she's bisexual but I only got proof of this when I read the MC2 Spider-Girl series.  In it, Felicia Henderson is now 40 something and has a teenage daughter called Felicity.  They don't have a great relationship.  Before this particular issue, we had hints that Felicity was unimpressed with her mother's love life, but we didn't know for sure who her partner was until this page, from Spider-Girl 53:

Ok, so it's not explicit, and I guess that if you were particularly blinkered and maybe naive you wouldn't see it, but it's fairly clear that Felicia and the woman in the top right hand panel have just moved apart from a romantic clinch.  And that Felicity isn't too happy about it.  Nothing more has been said about this, and seeing as I'm now at issue 73 ish I don't hold out much hope for this being looked at again.  We shall see.

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

#EverydaySexism

I went to buy a new rucksack a few weeks ago.  I needed something fairly small as I don't want to strain my back and I use a pannier on my bicycle for big things.  I headed into the local Cotswolds shop and found their only small rucksack.  It was purple.  Well that's ok, thought I.  Purple is quite nice.  then, whilst searching for the price, I found the description.


What? Whaaaaatttt?  It's a fecking rucksack.  There is more:

The blurb says:
This women's specific rucksack makes a great companion on the hill, whilst the internal organiser makes it ideal for commuting to school, the office or the gym.

The internal organisiser is a useless bit of material separating the main space from the back of the rucksack.  The internal pocket is non existent.  I feel patronised and fooled because I've bought an inferior product (inferior because of the stupid non existent internal pocket).

For reference, this is what it looks like.  It's by Berghaus:


 Arrrggggghhhhjjjj!


(Title is hashtagged for the benefit of twitter)

Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Friday, August 31, 2012

A few links ad pictures of fun

Foxy fun - foxes realise they are on a trampoline





I have a rant about the NHS coming up... but maybe I won't bother. depends on how angry I remain.

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Body balance

Does anyone know where I can find a listing of the movements for Body Balance #57?  It's a gym class, mix of pilates and yoga. I've found the tracklist but not the moves and I can't remember all the things in the release.

I'll explain why... I am a member of a local gym and have been going to the balance classes, but I've just had to freeze my membership because my boyfriend got knocked off his bike last week and is in hospital with a broken pelvis and broken collarbone.  Thankfully, that's all that's wrong with him - no internal injuries and no head injuries.  But because of this, I'm spending all my spare time at the hospital, and when he comes out i'll be spending my mornings and evenings looking after him till he's properly mobile again (he'll be on crutches for several weeks). So no time for the gym.  So I want to do the Balance routine at home so I don't seize up.  But with my crap memory, combined with all the stress, I can't remember what movements go where.


edit: of course, fuck knows when i'm gonna get the time to do this, what with going back to work on tuesday and spending evenings at the hospital, then finding time to eat as well.

edit 2: why does our local hospital have such piss poor lighting?   it's got those horrible glaring bulbs.  i'm stressed enough with the boyfriend being stuck in there, let alone getting headeaches induced by bad lighting.  I just want him home. :(

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

50 things to do before you’re 11 and ¾

So The National Trust is a UK charity that specialises in restoring and preserving historical buildings and gardens.  It might do more than that, but that's what I know about them.  Anyway, it seems to be common knowledge that kids don;t spend as much time outdoors as they used to, so the National Trust came up with a list of 50 things to do before you’re 11 and ¾.

I like lists.  I thought I'd go through and see what I'd done!  With commentary, of course.  Turns out that I've done 38 out of 50.  Not bad eh?  I found the list on the parents part of their website here: https://www.50things.org.uk/parents-area.aspx
The few that were missing I found from a google search.

What I'd like to know, is how many of this stuff you guys have done, and if there's a difference between folk who grew up in the UK, and folk who grew up elsewhere.  I guess climate of your country will make a difference to some of them.  Anyway, have a read and let me know.

1.Climb a tree
Yes – although as I’m a coward I am easily scared by the threat of falling.  My boyfriend is much better at this than me.  And still likes climbing trees. And scaffolding.  And anything he shouldn't!
2. Roll down a really big hill
Yes – mind the cowpats though.  And the rocks.
 
3. Camp out in the wild
Yes – I’m not a fan. I went with the girl guides and also on one family camping tree to the bay of biscay in France. That wasn’t exactly in the wild, though we did find a big fat hedgehog under the tent, and a huge jellyfish washed up on the beach.  In fact that jellyfish is what scared me from going in the sea for the next 10 years or so.
4. Build a den
Yes – although a lot of these were done in the house with chairs, the sofa and a duvet cover.  I used to love that  I've also done this as an adult. It's still fun.
 
5. Skim a stone
Yes - but I never got the hang of it.  I probably gave up after a few goes.

6. Run around in the rain
Yep!  This is also fun as a teenager.


7. Fly a kite
My Dad loved doing this with us.  We always had problems untangling the kite strings.
 
8. Catch a fish with a net
Done that in Ireland.  It was on a fish farm so it wasn’t exactly difficult.  I remember having to bash the fish in the head to kill it then taking it home and cooking it.  One of them excreted a lot of poo when my mum was cleaning it.  Gross..
I think the national trust wants you to catch the fish then put it back in the water.
9. Eat an apple straight from a tree
Very much so. And pears.  My dad grew the best pears.  At their best when they are slightly under-ripe.
10. Play conkers
Yes.  But I never really saw the point.
 
11. Throw some snow
Yes. But the coldness of the snow meant I have never enjoyed snowball fights.  Making snow angels, now that’s far more fun.
 
12. Hunt for treasure on the beach
I still do this now!
 
13. Make a mud pie
I remember doing this as a very young child.

14. Dam a stream
Yes - this is so much fun!  It was never anything spectacular.  Just little dams.  But still fun.
 
15. Go sledging
I’ve done this twice in my life. Once as a young teenager, where another sledge knocked into me and left me winded.  It was my first experience of being winded and I found it very interesting, in a detached sort of way. I remember thinking so this is hat winded means! This is how it feels not to be able to breathe!
The second time I went was at university, and it was awesome.
 
16. Bury someone in the sand
Not done this, not seriously.  I’ve buried feet in the sand plenty of times.  That’s really pleasurable.
17. Set up a snail race
I think I may have watched snail race, but I’ve never set one up. I dislike snails.  They are marginally above slugs on my scale of things to be afeard of.
 
18. Balance on a fallen tree
I ADORE playing on trees.  Even as an adult.  Especially as an adult.
19. Swing on a rope swing
Not sure if did this as a kid.  I may have been too fearful.  I’ve done it as an adult though.  Much fun was had.
 
20. Make a mud slide
Nooooo.... not sure what this means actually.

21. Eat blackberries growing in the wild
Yepski!  It’s a good idea to make sure they are ripe, otherwise they are sour tasting and will give you bad guts.
22. Take a look inside a tree
Hmm.  Not sure about this one.  I think I always wanted to, but there was a dearth of hollow trees wherever I looked.
23. Visit an island
This is where My memories get confused.  I could say yes, but I may just have placed scenes from the hounds of the morrigan or various Enid Blyton books into my memory.
24. Feel like you're flying in the wind
Oh yes.  I'd be surprised if anyone who goes outside ever has never experienced this.


25. Make a grass trumpet
Erm, again, I'm not sure what this means.  I've tried to whistle on grass.  Never got the hang of that.

26. Hunt for fossils and bones
Yes.  Not found any though.
27. Watch the sun wake up
I highly doubt this. I have never been a morning person.  From about 15 upwards I could stay up all night and watch the sun rise, but I always found it very boring.  Sunset is much more interesting.

28. Climb a huge hill
I expect so.  No specific memories come to mind, but we did have some good walks on the Yorkshire moors when I was young.  I climbed up Arthur’s seat in Edinburgh as an adult, when on a hen party a few years ago.
29. Get behind a waterfall
Like number 23, I have no idea if I’ve done this or if I’m just filching scenes from books and films.
 
30. Feed a bird from your hand 
Sadly no.  As an adult yes! I've fed the swans near our house. In my new house I hope to tame a robin!

31. Hunt for bugs
Of course.

32. Find some frogspawn
Yes.  In my primary school’s pond there was frogspawn. We all got taken out o look at it.  I remember touching it and being grossed out by the slimy nature of it.
33. Catch a butterfly in a net
Nope.
 
34. Track wild animals
If this means successfully, then no.  If it means  tried to, without any actual knowledge, then of course!


35. Discover what's in a pond
Probably.  I expect when poking at frogspawn we also looked at the other pondlife.
36. Call an owl
Unfortunately no.  But  if my house move goes well I’ll be living next to some woods, so maybe then eh?

37. Check out the crazy creatures in a rock pool
I remember looking at rock pools, but always being disappointed there weren’t exciting things in there.  I felt like Enid Blyton books had lied to me. 

38. Bring up a butterfly
No. But I want to now.

39. Catch a crab
Erm... I’m really not sure...
40. Go on a nature walk at night
I cannot recall if I’ve ever done this.
41. Plant it, grow it, eat it
My dad did.  He tried to get me interested in gardening.  It didn't work.  Does that count?  Oh hang on, I may have grown some cress once.

42. Go wild swimming
I think so.  Probably before I saw the massive jellyfish on the beach in France.
 
43. Go rafting
I remember building a raft on a school trip.  I don’t think we ever got on it though.
 
44. Light a fire without matches
I remember trying to do this.  Possibly using the rubbing sticks together vigorously method.  Possibly at Girl Guides.  I don’t think it worked.
 
45. Find your way with a map and a compass
Yep!  At Girl Guides, or a school trip.  Or both, perhaps.
 
46. Try bouldering
I don’t think I know what this is.
 
47. Cook on a campfire
Yes,  At guide camping trips. And at Reading festival as an adult. I hated it.  Still do.
 
48. Try abseiling
Yes, on a school trip to Wales.  I was missing a contact lens, I was scared of heights, but after I’d gone over the edge I loved it. I would like to do it again.
 
49. Find a geocache
As an adult I did this.  I think was aged about 23.
50. Canoe down a river
Yes,  I was probably terrified (I was terrified of a lot of things).  I did it on the school trip to Wales.

So, what do you reckon?  how many of these have you done?

Monday, August 20, 2012

Just two little tattoos (a crosspost)

A friend of mine recently wrote an excellent post on tattoos, bodily autonomy and parental control, in response to an article on the Guardian which was full of overblown hysterics regarding one mother's reactions to her son's tattoo.  I'm crossposting it here, because it's such a good, considered, well thought out response.

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As I am in my mid-twenties, and find myself part of a very similar situation, I wanted to respond directly to Tess Morgan’s recent article in the Guardian. And just as I know her hysterical reaction is not indicative of all mothers, I do not assume to speak for anyone other than myself. I also hesitate to make this too-specifically about my own situation as, unlike Tess - only crudely hidden with a pseudonym, I don’t want to step on the toes of anyone else’s privacy. I hope I can paint reactions with broad enough brushstrokes.

Tess’ article reads like a (somewhat overblown) itinerary of my own parents’ reactions to my two tattoos. And although I was reasonably unaware of how revulsed they were by the idea of tattoos before getting inked, it sounds like her son and I had similar experiences.

One key difference is that I am female - usually I would make no issue of this, but Tess explains why her associations of men with tattoos are so strong, and so abhorrent. And this is something that fascinates me. This level of prejudice, from someone claiming to be liberal, is typical of the Guardian reading hypocrisy. It seems her deepest fear is that her son will instantly become (or at least be seen as) a thug with a dog on a chain. This boy is clearly more intelligent and open-minded than his mother. What a terrible advert for middle-class sneering. ‘On a chain!!’

In my case, I am a woman. Largely speaking we are a society absent of older women with tattoos. If they have them, we do not see them. There are likely to be few women currently in their seventies with tattoos. I want to see these taboos broken. I want to be part of changing what women are allowed to explore and expose. Tess realises her reaction may just be what older women feel. I want these prudish expectations of women to evaporate. I no more want to be objectified by a middle-aged woman than I do by any man. The only thing I can do is fight by refusing to cover, for others, the markings I have chosen.


image taken by Tom Cops

When imagining my body at seventy, my parents think I will regret my (carefully considered) choices. But there is something beautiful and freeing in trusting yourself, trusting that, whether or not fashions change and you no longer like the aesthetic you chose, that picture is now a part of your fabric. It has become as familiar and pleasing as any part of your body. You have lived with it for nearly as long. My tattoos were developed with people I love, during some of the best experiences of my life, and even if my relationship to those people were to change, what better reminder of the possibilities of human interaction?

Tess assumes tattoos are fashionable, but that is not right, they are a culture in themselves. And whereas they historically told the world ‘I am part of this specific thing’, with symbols to delineate denominations, they now say whatever an individual chooses.

Tess’ images of death and repeated reference to the fact her son ‘couldn’t have done anything to hurt me more’ are utterly ridiculous and I’m sure only push her level-headed sounding son further away. He has done nothing to her. When he makes any other decision I’m sure he doesn’t have to consider his parents’ judgement, because until that point he has obviously received excesses of unconditional love, reinforcing his every thought.

It seems prejudice is nearly all of what this reaction comes down to. But if a tattoo is going to change how someone thinks of me, well then it is a good way of filtering out the idiots before I get emotionally involved with them. If someone had a problem with what I chose to wear, I would not change for them, as it is a big part of who I am. My parents would not want me to. I had hoped they would see this in that light.


image via

As in the case of Tess’ son, my tattoos are easily covered for working situations, so they will never stop me from achieving the high-powered jobs parents think their children want. And surely a tattoo is an indication of the self-belief and arrogance you need to reach the top of any career chain.
My parents always want me to feel sure of myself, comfortable in my own skin. And despite their limitless faith in me and praise, I am as full of doubt and self-deprecation as everyone else. Getting my two tattoos signalled the first time I had felt certain of anything, the first time I confidently made a decision that benefited and affected only me. I naturally satellite my movements around others, my views are occasionally malleable and open to debate. I spend a lot of time agonising over this. It’s something I’m intensely aware of and something I want to change. I felt immensely happy when, contrary to this trait, I evolved the certainty to add something to myself. Something I would glimpse in the mirror, something for and about myself, and the few people involved in their conception.

It soon transpired the tattoos were not only affecting me, they were affecting my parents even more. The idea that a parent has the kind of connection Tess describes to the body of their child is disturbing. It makes me never want to have children. To assume any kind of authority over someone else’s body, whether or not they started life in your womb or testicles, is not right. Even if that authority originates in love and devotion.

It is my body. It is my body. And just in case it hasn’t sunk in, it is my body. Will and Jada Pinkett Smith said a brilliant thing about their daughter Willow:
“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers.”

(This should be a picture of Willow Pinkett Smith but the image won't copy over.  Please go to Grace's original post to view it)
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When Tess hazards that her son gave her no thought when getting the tattoo, she is right. She says he ‘took a meat cleaver to my apron strings’, but what would be a better sign of a loving, empathetic, motherly connection than to accept her son for whatever decisions he makes, whatever he chooses to wear, be or paint himself with? Even if this turns out to be a mistake, for god’s sake support him in that too. You clearly want to be involved.

If anything, Tess has untied the strings with her own hyperbolic rage and petty childish response to snobbish prejudice.

I have still never regretted my tattoos for a single second. But the only thing that has made me feel any unease has been my parents. I am hoping that Tess will do as her son says, re-examine her prejudices and, to put it bluntly, chill the fuck out. My parents have.


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Wonderfully put Grace.  Questions about parent/child bodily autonomy have been at the forefront of my mind recently, as my sister had her first child 5 months ago.  My mother has got very protective and controlling about myself, my sister and her new granddaughter since then, and I think it's all tied up with feelings of ownership that she's got over us.  Obviously, this makes me very uncomfortable.  So, this post is very timely for me.


I do not have any tattoos, but I do have piercings, I've written about them here.

Sunday, August 19, 2012

Please, teach basic science

“First of all, from what I understand from doctors [pregnancy from rape] is really rare,” Akin told KTVI-TV in an interview posted Sunday. “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.”

From here.

A Republican Senate Nominee said that. You'd think he's be fairly bright.  He should know better.  Man, if you're gonna oppose abortion please use facts to back up your views, not made up science.

Super Silly Sunday

This was doing the rounds on twitter recently.






Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Ha!

Saturday, August 18, 2012

Super Sexy Saturday

I was gonan do just one post, but heck, when I searched images of Black Canary, loads came up, so let's make today's post a Canary spectacular.  Of course, quite a few images of just Dinah are porn or just bad, or they are her doing heroic stuff.  I don't really want the heroic stuff, b/c when she's being heroic my main thought is she's heroic, not sexy.  So I've included a few images of her with Ollie as well.  Enjoy!



 (The above is by Paolo Rivera)



Super Sexy Saturday

It's the original cover to Superman/Batman 40.  I don't think I've used it before.  It caused an outcry when first released on t'internet and the final cover was this image instead.  I think the final one is boring.

I love this image.  Bekka is the goddess of lust, this suits that.  I don't think it's sexist at all.  I don't think it demeans her or demeans Bruce.  I just think it's a fabulous, hot image.

Friday, August 17, 2012

Jericho

I'm reading pre crisis Teen Titans and the treatment of jericho is getting me really cross.

He doesn't get internal narrative boxes. He gets description boxes telling us what he's thinking, but they are not thoughts.  everybody else gets internal narrative, but not Joe.  he is silenced in all ways possible.
This is a problem because he is mute.  He isn't deaf, his hearing is absolutely fine, but he can't speak so he uses American sign language to communicate (when the rest of his team can be bothered to learn it that is).  So because he can't verbally speak and the rest of the team can't understand him, we never get to hear what it's in his head either.  which is bullshit. he's not an empty vessel just because no other bugger can understand him.

F'rinstance, if he got an internal narrative box here I bet he's be saying something like 'ye gods that woman's soul self is horrendous what the fuck just happened I'm in a lot of pain.  you bloody arseholes why can't you understand me dammit you bunch of selfish buggers'.

and the phrase' searching for concepts no sign language was designed to convey' irks me no end. a) it wasn't designed, b) sign languages can convey concepts of soul searching horror very well thank you, c) a better way to describe his feeling would be to say something like 'searching for concepts no human being ever thought to convey'.


Lazy fucking writing.

Batman Friday!

So I wore a Bat belt buckle to work a few months back, and it was a Friday, so I decided every Friday is Batman Friday.

Since then I've been encouraging people to tell me their favourite Batman, Bat family, or Bat mammal related anecdotes and stories.

It makes Friday much more fun!  A few weeks ago I tweeted a link to an RSPB blog post comparing Batman and Spider-man (including nifty action figures).

Got any?


Here's some twitter folks came up with:

@AlexanderLyons - http://bit.ly/M9CXv5 Steph slaps The Douche Knight in the faaaace...

- My Dad loves Batman. He used to tell me Batman stories instead of Fairy Tales.

‏@KorvarTheFox - I think my favourite Batman story is him versus the Hyperclan in Justice League. Even if that led to bad BatGod stories. #batmanfriday

Not sure who gave me this one, but it's a real life Batman - http://fb.me/24pDfzDny

@cwena - I saw Batman Live, and I saw Batman's boot guard fall off. It was inspiring how he carried on fighting crime

My personal contribution is that when I'm at body combat gym classes, I secretly pretend I'm a bat ninja.  Or I used to at least.  Now I normally concentrate on not falling over.


Then there's stories too:
Superhero economics: Bat vs Spider.
Batman princess
http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/rosenwald-md/post/who-is-the-route-29-batman-this-guy/2012/03/28/gIQA8nPjgS_blog.html


So come one, tell me your Batman Friday stories.  If you tweet it use the #batmanfriday hashtag so I can find it :)

Have a great day everybody :)

Sunday, August 12, 2012

Super Silly Sunday

GIANT COLUMN OF SKULLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SKULLS!!!!

(new teen titans, vol 1, issue 29)


SKULLS!!!