Tales of rape in fiction

Been thinking about this lately. I think the reason I loathe I so much is because it always seems to be saying look, women, this is an ever present threat in your lives, you will never escape it and if someone wants to hurt you like this then you can't stop them. And oddly enough I take offence at being told I should be fearful all my life. I know this probably isn't how the writers mean it, i'm sure when writers put rape or near-rape scenes into their fiction it's to show how bad the assaulter is, it's an easy way to get us to feel disgust. But it doesn't always read like that.